Friday, April 8, 2011

Easily Offended...

I have come to a harsh realization in the past year or so that I am super easily offended.  People's words, facial expressions, and tones tend to REALLY offend me, and I get my feelings hurt easily because of that. 

In the past, I have chalked it up to lack of tact or jealousy on their part.  I know people don't mean to offend me (that's just rude!), so I can't get mad at them for it.  But recently, I have realized that maybe I'm a little too sensitive.  Maybe it's me???  Maybe I just need to get over it and ignore it.  I think the reason it bothers me so much is because I am overly cautious not to say anything that I think might offend anyone. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, and it's almost to the point of being a fault....I have worked on being more bold about my thoughts and feelings (without being rude).

Need a few examples??  (I'm not exxaggerating here, these are true stories...)
1) Someone once said to me "If you lost weight, you would really be a bombshell."
2) "Yea, I thought you were super snobby when I first met you."
3)When I was getting the facial on Wednesday, the esthetician pretty much said my skin is awful and my eyebrows are WAYYYYY too thin, all the while indicating through her various tones and statements that I have no clue about skin care.
4) A man was screaming at me yesterday to hang the phone up while we were stopped at a redlight. Yes, I know I was on the phone, but I was at a REDLIGHT!!  I did not do anything out of line, cut him off, drive too slow, whatever.  He was seriously screaming at me! I couldn't believe it.
5) In college, someone said to me, "What happened to you? You used to be a great pitcher in high school."
6) "Yea, we worry about how much your weight fluctuates."
7) "I wonder who nominated you for teacher of the year."
and my favorite...
(this one REALLY makes me angry!)
8) "Yea, I wasn't sure about you and Jonathan. I didn't think y'all would make it."

What the heck is wrong with people????  I would NEVER....

There are seriously COUNTLESS examples....those are just a few that pop into my head. 

I am posting this because it is something I am really trying to work on.  I can't control other people, but I can control how I allow myself to react to them.  I know people typically do not have any ill intentions, so why should I let it bother me?? I shouldn't.  From now on, when people say ridiculous things to me, it's in one ear and out the other....

7 comments:

Rissy said...

i would have been offended by ALL those things and remembered them to this day as well...

I don't think it's our fault. I truly think some people have no tact. But I agree that by brushing it off, our lives will be better ; )

I personally think your are fabulous.

CarissaExplainsItAll

Emily said...

ugh-oh...everything okay? sounds like a "Venting" post to me and I know them well :) Words hurt. I'm terrible about dishing it out and AWFUL at taking it. Not a good combo!!! I am SUPER sensitive when people make fun of me. Seth once teased me about wearing jean capris and now I don't want to wear them. EVER. AGAIN. I try to shrug stuff off too but it's hard. I think it boils down to our own insecurities don't you??? I am prob guilty of saying some of those things so I'm sorry if I have! Not only am I terrible about dishing it out, I'm also guilty of not being too tactful. At least I admit it and I've grown through it some these past few years :)

Stephanie said...

HOLY COW. I don't understand those comments. We've never met, but I'm a total follower. You are so gorgeous!!! You shouldn't let those silly comments get to you. You seem super sweet, and I love reading the blog!

joy said...

You are drop-dead gorgeous. I can only think those comments are jealousy driven. I know they hurt though and make us think there is something wrong with "us". When, in fact, it is THEIR problem.

*Butler, Party of 2* said...

Y'all are REALLY sweet. I promise this wasn't a ploy to get my ego stroked, but y'all definitely know how to make a girl feel goof about herself! Either way, I need to stop being so easily offended. Time to mature, right? :)

*Butler, Party of 2* said...

*good (haha, though GOOF is what I REALLY am!)

Anonymous said...

I have just read this blog and am so happy that I found it...I actually searched the terms "why am I so sensitive" on google and have found this-it is very refreshing to know that their are people actually out there like myself! I believe you are on to something when you mention that you feel that some people may just be jealous. I have always chalked it up to jealousy as well. This is my advice...Remember that you are the controller of your happiness, there is no way to ever know the real truth about others inputs. So, no matter what anyone says you have to choose to be happy and know that you are special-even if you are sensitive, it's okay, the world needs more people like yourself. It's the extra sensitive that put more peace and love in to our world. Don't change who you are, maybe just work on your THOUGHTS you allow in when untactful-arrogant people try to mess with your mind. nine times out of ten people like you tend to be the one in a million that give to those in need and pay your respects to those that are longing for it. No worries, you are a unique, one of a kind, daughter of the King!!